These tips are not intended to become scripts for debriefings – don’t memorize, use your own words. It is essential to “keep it real” as a debriefer. People will figure out quickly if you aren’t speaking from your heart.
“How has it been since the incident (at home, work, etc). What has been hardest? What have you noticed that is different in yourself and family, others?”
Keep questions neutral with regard to thinking or feeling. Instead of “What were you feeling?” or “What were you thinking?” say “What was going through your head?” or “How was that for you?”
Avoid “awfulizing” – keep it simple and small. “What is the hardest part right now? That’s all you have to deal with right now.”
The Bay Area CISM Team is made up of former and present first responders, counselors, therapists and others who have been trained by the Centre for Living with Dying, the ICISF or other accredited CISM training organization. The tips and techniques on this site are based on their collective experience and wisdom. Feel free to add your tips and thoughts in comments.